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Navigating the Skies and Life: Embracing What’s Within Your Control

Published 26 days ago • 4 min read

Navigating the Skies and Life: Embracing What’s Within Your Control

Hi Reader,

It's been a few months since the last newsletter, and it's good to be back. The past few months have been incredibly busy, flying the line and tackling the day-to-day challenges of our profession. Between long flights, unexpected career diversions, and the usual hustle of life, finding time for writing has been a challenge. Everyone's lives are busy, and as pilots, juggling the demands of our jobs with personal commitments can be a constant balancing act.

It’s heartening to know that our Pilot Life Newsletters have been well-received and eagerly awaited. These newsletters have always been popular, and it’s great to see how much they've resonated with many of you. Our content goes beyond aviation technical know-how—it’s about promoting a healthy mindset and highlighting what we think it takes to be a resilient and well-rounded pilot.

Today, we are taking a look at such an important theme—re-examining what is, and is not, in our control and why understanding the difference may help you become a better pilot and, more importantly, a better person.

Every takeoff gives us the chance to navigate both the challenges and the rewards of flying. Yet, as pilots, we need to know the importance of distinguishing between what we can control and what we can't. This understanding is essential not only in the cockpit but also in our everyday lives.

In aviation, our thoughts, decisions, and reactions are within our control. How we respond to unexpected turbulence or a sudden change in conditions is entirely up to us. These internal actions are like our pre-flight checks—meticulously planned and executed. Our mindset, desires, and reactions are our domain. They are our own actions, and we have full authority over them.

On the other hand, there are factors we cannot control. Mechanical failures, air traffic, and even the opinions of others—these are out of our hands. Just as we can't change the course of a storm, we can't alter certain external aspects of our lives. Our physical health, material possessions, and reputation fall into this category. They are subject to external influences and can be unpredictable.

Understanding this distinction is crucial. Trying to control the uncontrollable leads to frustration and stress. For instance, obsessing over a sudden aircraft technical failure won’t fix it. Instead, focusing on how to handle the situation calmly and effectively is what matters. The same principle applies to life. Accepting that some things are beyond our control allows us to focus on what we can manage.

When we align our mindset to accept only what is within our control, we find a sense of peace. Imagine the confidence that comes with knowing that no matter what external challenges arise, your inner world remains unshaken. This mental resilience is akin to having a well-maintained aircraft—ready to handle any turbulence with ease.

Consider a scenario where a pilot believes they can control the actions of air traffic controllers. Imagine the frustration of trying to dictate every directive from the tower—it’s not only impossible but counterproductive.

Similarly, in life, thinking we can control others' opinions or actions sets us up for constant disappointment and anxiety. By acknowledging that we can only control our own responses, we free ourselves from undue stress. It's like adjusting our flight path based on current conditions instead of stubbornly fighting against them. This acceptance allows us to navigate through challenges with clarity and calmness, making for a smoother journey both in the cockpit and in life.

When we accept that some things are simply out of our control, we stop blaming others and circumstances for our frustrations. This mindset shift allows us to focus on solutions rather than problems. It’s like adjusting a flight path due to unexpected headwinds—adaptability is key.

In the end, understanding what’s within our control makes us better pilots and better individuals. It encourages us to take responsibility for our actions and responses while letting go of the need to control everything else. This approach fosters a calm, confident, and resilient attitude, both in the cockpit and in life. Like anything worthwhile, it just takes a bit of practice.

For those currently studying hard for exams, remember that the effort you put into your preparation is within your control. Focus on your study habits, time management, and understanding of the material. Worrying about the exam results won’t change them—your preparation will. Similarly, if you're coming up for a simulator check or a check to line, concentrate on your training and practice. Stressing about the outcome won't improve your performance, but thorough preparation and a calm mindset will.

So, next time you're taking off or facing a challenge on the ground, remember: focus on what you can control. Let go of what you can't. Embrace the understanding that comes with this mindset, and navigate through life with the same precision and calm that you bring to your flights. The skies are vast and unpredictable, but with the right mindset, you’ll always find your way.

Action Points for the Week:

  1. Daily Reflection: At the end of each day, take a few minutes to reflect on what you tried to control that was beyond your reach. Write it down in a journal, and think about how you can let go of these concerns.
  2. Pre-Flight Mindset Check: Before each flight, take a moment to mentally separate what you can control (your reactions, your focus) from what you can't (mechanical issues, air traffic). This will help you stay centred and calm.
  3. Practice Acceptance: When faced with a frustrating situation, pause and remind yourself of the distinction between controllable and uncontrollable factors. Focus on how you can positively influence the situation.

By integrating these action points into your week, you'll not only become a better pilot but also enhance your overall well-being. The journey, both in the skies and on the ground, becomes smoother when we focus on what truly lies within our control.

Hope you all have a happy and safe week.

Kia kaha.

Mark and the team from Perspectives and Pilot Life Training

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